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Unconditional Love vs Self-Worth

This blog post discusses the concept of unconditional love versus self-worth in relationships. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing when it’s time to let go and move on from a relationship that doesn’t align with our sense of self-worth, and how doing so can lead to personal growth and happiness.

Knowing When to Let Go for a Healthier Relationship

Introduction

Love is one of the most powerful emotions we experience as humans. It has the ability to bring us immense joy and happiness, but it can also cause us pain and heartache. When we love someone, we often want to hold onto that feeling forever. However, there are times when we need to let go of someone we love, even if that love is unconditional.

In this blog post, we will explore the idea of unconditional love versus self-worth, and how knowing when to let go can lead to a healthier relationship. This post inspiration came from a photo I saw on social media. When I shared it so many people commented/liked and shared. The theme resonated greatly with so many people. I was so surprised but realized we needed to dig into the topic.


So today, we discuss the importance of self-worth, the meaning of unconditional love, and when it’s time to let go of someone we love.

Unconditional Love

Unconditional love is often viewed as the highest form of love. It means that we love someone regardless of their flaws, mistakes, or shortcomings. We love them for who they are, not what they do or how they behave. It is a love that is free from conditions or expectations. We love because we choose to, not because we have to.

However, unconditional love does not mean that we allow someone to treat us poorly or disrespect us. It doesn’t mean that we should stay in a relationship that is unhealthy or unfulfilling. Unconditional love should be accompanied by self-worth, which is the belief that we are deserving of love and respect.

Self-Worth

Self-worth is the foundation of a healthy relationship. It is the belief that we are worthy of love, respect, and happiness. When we have a strong sense of self-worth, we are less likely to tolerate behavior that is disrespectful or hurtful. We understand our own value and refuse to settle for less than we deserve.

However, self-worth is something that can be difficult to maintain, especially in a relationship where we feel vulnerable or exposed. It can be easy to doubt ourselves when we are in love with someone, especially if that person does not value us in the way we believe we deserve. When this happens, it’s important to take a step back and evaluate the relationship.

The Importance of Knowing When to Let Go

Knowing when to let go of someone we love is one of the most difficult decisions we can make. It’s natural to want to hold onto a relationship, especially if we have invested time and energy into it. However, there are times when it’s necessary to let go, even if that love is unconditional.

If someone does not value us in the way we deserve, then it’s time to re-evaluate the relationship. This doesn’t mean that we don’t love them anymore, but it does mean that we understand our own worth and refuse to tolerate behavior that is disrespectful or hurtful. It’s important to recognize when a relationship is no longer healthy or fulfilling, and to have the courage to walk away.

Also read: https://creatingsoulspace.com/2023/04/what-a-shame-researcher-taught-me-about-living-big/

Loving the Memory of Someone

Loving the memory of someone is a way to honor the positive moments that were shared together while recognizing that the relationship has run its course.

It’s a bittersweet experience, but it’s a way to move forward in a healthy and positive way.

By loving the memory of someone, we can acknowledge the good times while also recognizing that it’s time to let go.

We have all been here. Even writing this I’m still feel the pang of an old relationship that I had to let go.

Moving On

Moving on from a relationship can be incredibly difficult, but it’s important to remember that it’s for the best. If the other person is not able to provide the love and support that we need, then we are better off without them in our lives. This is not an easy decision to make, but it’s one that can lead to a happier and more fulfilling life.

Moving on can also be an opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery. It’s a time to focus on ourselves, our goals, and our dreams. We can use this time to rediscover who we are, what we want, and what we deserve in a relationship.

Additional Resources:

The Wisdom of a Broken Heart” by Susan Piver is a self-help book that aims to provide guidance and comfort to those who are experiencing heartbreak. Piver draws from her personal experience of going through a painful breakup and combines it with Buddhist principles to offer a unique perspective on healing.

The book is divided into three sections, each of which explores a different stage of the healing process. The second section focuses on the process of letting go and moving forward. Piver discusses the concept of impermanence and how it can be applied to relationships. She encourages readers to embrace change and let go of attachment to a specific outcome.

The final section of the book offers advice for creating a new life after heartbreak. Piver emphasizes the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and cultivating a sense of purpose. She also offers practical advice for dating again and building healthy relationships in the future.

Overall, “The Wisdom of a Broken Heart” is a compassionate and practical guide for anyone going through a difficult breakup. Piver’s approach combines personal experience, Buddhist philosophy, and practical advice to offer a holistic perspective on healing from heartbreak. You can find the book at Amazon or any of your favorite book stores!

Conclusion

Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, but it should be accompanied by self-worth. If someone does not value us in the way we deserve, then it’s important to recognize when it’s time to let go. By loving the memory of someone and moving on, we can honor the positive moments that were shared while also focusing on our own happiness and personal growth.

It’s important to remember that letting go of someone we love is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of strength. It takes courage to recognize when a relationship is no longer healthy or fulfilling and to have the courage to walk away. By doing so, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and the potential for a happier and more fulfilling life.

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What A Shame Researcher Taught Me About Living BIG

Everything I learned about Boundaries, I learned from Brene Brown

Let me be the first to say, I love Brene Brown (BB). I’ve consumed everything she’s written. Her Ted Talk (you know the one from 2010) that made her a household name was amazing. She’s a shame researcher. Brown will use her occupation as a shame researcher to shut down small talk on an airplane. She is funny, smart and tells it like it is.

This lady backs her stuff up with data. I love it. Read through the article and let me know your thoughts. I provide my favorite BB short at the end!

 What boundaries need to be in place for me to be in my integrity and to be generous in my assumptions about others? 

Living BIG is a concept introduced by Brené Brown, which stands for “Boundaries, Integrity, and Generosity.” It’s a way of living life with courage, compassion, and purpose.

First up is Boundaries.

The “B” in BIG stands for boundaries. This means setting clear boundaries in our personal and professional lives. It means learning to say no when necessary, and respecting the boundaries of others. By setting boundaries, we can protect ourselves and our relationships from harm.

Also Read: Setting Boundaries with Family, Friends and Co-Workers.

Next is Integrity.

The “I” in BIG stands for integrity. This means being honest and authentic in all aspects of our lives, even when it’s difficult. When we live with integrity, we can build trust and connection with others.

The final piece is Generosity.

The “G” in BIG stands for generosity. This means being kind, empathetic, and compassionate towards ourselves and others. When we practice generosity, we can create a culture of belonging. We foster deeper connections with those around us.

When we have generosity and compassion for people in our lives, we can get rid of grief and anger. And if we are being honest? Our belief that people are just making shitty choices. What if they are really just doing their best?

Living BIG, boundaries, integrity, generosity. What boundaries need to be in place for me to be in my integrity and be generous towards you?

Brené Brown

Some final thoughts on Living BIG.

To sum up, living BIG is a call for us to live with intention and purpose. To strive to be our best selves. It’s about embracing vulnerability, practicing self-compassion, and showing up for ourselves and others with courage and compassion.

Listen to the podcast here.

This is my FAVORITE SHORT about “The Power of Empathy.”

5 Ways to Strengthen Your Intuition Today

Use these top five ways to strengthen your intuition in 14 days!

We all want a way to listen completely to our heart space. What is your intuition? To me, it’s that inner knowing, inner wisdom,  a gut feeling, the voice in your head that tells you what to do when you really need it.

It’s the way that God, Spirit and the Universe guide you in a direction for your highest and best good. How your intuition will show up for you may be in many ways. For you it may be a flash of an idea. While there are MORE than five ways to strengthen your intuition, these are a great place to start. 

Honor Your Body

Honor your body. Think water, good food, rest and repeat. Seriously, the first step is starting to strengthen your mind, body, and soul connection with your intuition by drinking water and putting good food into your body. We don’t drink hardly enough water. We drink too much soda, coffee and sugary drinks. Try substituting one sugary drink to water.

When it comes to food, skip the processed junk and fast food. Yes, it’s super convenient. Most of us are still working from home or maybe working from home once or twice a week. Use your blended work and home life to your benefit. If that doesn’t work for you, try meal prepping on Sundays to get ready for the week.

Get your sleep on. Yup, 7-8 hours a night if you listen to the sleep experts. I have a fitbit. I like to play a game to see how much sleep I can get during the week. So far this week, my average sleep hours is 7 hours and 45 mins. Your body needs time to rejuvenate. You can’t listen to your intuition if you are yawning. Take naps if you need too. The best time to take a nap and not screw up your sleep cycle is between 10-2p. Only take a 20-30 minute nap, if it works for cats, it can work for us

Ground

There are many ways to ground. My favorite is getting my bare feet on mama earth. Stand on the earth. Take up some space. For you Yogis, its similar to Mountain Pose. 

I usually stand with my feet a little more than shoulder width apart. Do what makes you feel comfortable. I put my hands to my side and stretched out and active fingers (jazz hands!)

While standing strong on the earth, imagine sending your negative emotions; fear, anger, anxiety into the ground through the right side of your body. Imagine a color for your negative energy. Sometimes for me, it’s a fiery red. The right side of your body is your masculine side.

Then on the left side of the body, imagine drawing energy up from mother earth. The energy is warm, nurturing, and calming. I feel safe and loved. The left side of your body is your feminine side.

When I draw in my energy from Mama Earth, I see the color green. It’s a healing color and the color of the earth.  You can envision any color you want. I imagine this energy is filling up my body and I begin to glow the same color

Journal

I have fought this one for so long. I didn’t really see the point, until I tried it. When I started to journal, my soul began to whisper to me. At first, it was snip-its or single words and short phrases.

Now when I sit down to write, I start writing intuitively. It’s a process called automatic writing. I will write full pages. I began by closing my eyes and letting the pen drift along the page. Full pages I’d write. I let my ego stand aside and let my soul lead.

If journaling is new to you, find a journal with prompts. The prompts will help you focus on a question for your soul to answer. One of my favorite soul questions is: If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you do? Ask this question and write down the response. Don’t edit yourself, just write it down. Ask this SAME question again. Write down another answer. Keep doing this until you run out of answers.

Devote a few minutes a day to write in your journal. It may be the end of the day or the beginning of your day. Some people like to use the end of the day to sum up how their day went or issues/challenges they dealt with. Either way, morning or night, know whichever way you pick will be the perfect choice for you

If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you do?

Honor Your Feelings

Feel all the things. At times we can be our own worst enemy by judging ourselves and our feelings. We suppress our feelings. People or society might tell us to stop feeling a certain way.

All of this builds up in our bodies and mind and halts the soul connections. You have the right to feel the way you feel. Some people hate to cry. They will hide their tears and immediately dap the tears away. My mentor told me that tears are the best healing waters. Let the tears fall and don’t try to wipe them away.

When we hide our feelings, we hide ourselves. When we are filled with too many negative emotions like fear, anger and resentment, we aren’t free to be our truest selves. Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick. Release the feelings and move on.

Always find a way back to love.

Don’t Hate, Meditate

That is one of my favorite cards to pull in my oracle deck from Kyle Gray. You can find this card in his Oracle Deck called Angel Prayers, buy a copy here.

Meditation and journaling were a struggle for me. When I finally stopped resisting, I was amazed by the inner guidance I began to receive. Begin your day with meditation.

First thing before you get out of bed. Check in with your body. Or go on a walk. During your walk don’t think about anything. No talking, just stepping. I’ve found the best meditations are in that sweet spot of 3-10 minutes.

I love guided meditations. Youtube is a great place to find some sweet ones. When I have trouble falling asleep, I will listen to a guided meditation. I feel AMAZING when I wake up the next day.

Try It for 14 Days

Try all of these steps for 14 days and see how the universe opens to you. See how your soul and your intuition begins to speak to you. Tell me in the comments what you think. Let me hear your stories!